2. I hope I'll explain it well, because my English is not so good and I don't know how to explain things :D If you're not sure if you get it, write a comment and I'll try to explain it better.
3. Finally to my problem. I have two people who have a child together. The mother is young and she didn't wanted that child from beginning but then she thought it will be ok. After the baby is born she lives with her and the father for a few months, but then she's depressed so she and the father (he's not her husband, just a boyfriend) decide she could leave for a while to see her friends etc. But after few weeks/months when the mother wants to come back, she finds out the father met a woman and he wants to live with her and take care of his daughter. Because the mother thinks it's better they make a deal and their daughter stays with the father and the mother move away. But after few years the father dies.
And now the question
What happens to their daughter? I want her to end up with her mother, but what happens between her father dies and she goes to her mother? Will she be first in that home for kids who don't have parents (I don't know the word in English) and then she will go to her mother without problems. Or will her mother has to prove she's able to care of her daughter to some social workers etc. I don't know how it works in USA , well I don't know how it works at all.
I've searched for phrases like child after parent's death, but my problem is too specific to find something what describes it.
Thank you for answers :)