I've got a character who was named executor of her grandmother's estate-- is that a realistic thing to do? I've done some googling and it seems like the executor would need to be someone with legal knowledge and possibly even experience, i.e. not a 25-ish woman just getting on her feet in the world. Is there any situation in which the granddaughter would be the logical choice for executor? It's mostly to illustrate the grandmother's long-standing grudge against her daughter, so if it's not feasible, I can find another way to do it.
And whoever the executor is, how does the estate settlement go? The giving-out of property and will-reading and whatnot. Does it happen very soon after the funeral or does it take months?
On to the second part of the question: I'm confused about the funeral. The grandmother in question is a Southern Baptist, but she's also a veteran-- peacetime service as a Navy nurse. I've read in a couple of places that if she had a regular Baptist funeral, a flag on the coffin wouldn't be permitted. How strict are the rules on this? The flag is going to play a big part later in the story, but the hymns were going to be a big point of description. The flag's more important, so does she need to have a military funeral? Or are there SBC churches that would allow it? Or churches of other denominations, perhaps?
ETA: The story takes place in Georgia, US. I guess that would've been useful information to provide upfront. :P
I know my questions are pretty complicated, but even answers to bits and pieces of them would be much appreciated. Thanks! :)