I've been working for a long time on a fic that's about the immediate events after a British knight dies, leaving his thirteen-year-old daughter essentially alone. She's actually covering up a murder that happened a few days after his death, so she's trying to prevent people from finding out how alone she is, and so she's also trying to take care of her father's funeral details. I'm not asking you to help me make this realistic, I just want to know more about funerals.
I've given up (but would be ecstatic if someone has and shares knowledge) trying to learn about particular ceremonies that are given modern-day British knights (it's a partly fantasy world, anyway); I just want to know some particular things that are necessary parts of funerals. Like:
Are mailed invitations to the funeral customary? I know there are sometimes announcements with the obituary in a newspaper; like, "viewing is open at such-and-such a time." But if it's not public, if it's private...do you mail out invitations?
What's the maximum length of time that can pass before it seems downright necessary to bury the body? A week?
Any other information you might think is relevant would be very helpful. Like, would she have to choose pallbearers? The body's going to be buried in a family cemetary on the estate, so picking a graveyard isn't a problem. They also have a family minister/chapel. I kind of want two services: one for the burial and one later on, a more "proper" memorial service since the burial is something they just need to get done. They're both going to be very small and private.
On another note, my main character (the daughter) also sustained a bullet wound to the shoulder (which went only through muscle and exited the body) also shortly after her father's death. She received immediate medical attention, but I'm wondering how she's feeling physically through the next week. I imagine there is pain. Can anyone give me more details? (How much pain, do you take pills for it, how would it affect her...I've been guessing that she has trouble moving that shoulder/arm.)
Searched terms: honestly, I've been stuck on this for so long I don't remember all I've searched, but it's been a long combination of "funeral/funerary procedures," " present-day British knight funerals" "funeral invitations." Not all of those exact phrases. I ended up reading a lot of interesting but ultimately irrelevant information from a Rhode Island funeral home, and I learned that burying ground is becoming a scarce commodity in the British Isles, so they're trying to turn more to cremation. I've read the Wikipedia articles on bullet wounds (ick), and I have gone through this community's tags for bullet wounds and funerals. (I'm interested more in recovery from GSW than anything else.)
Thank you so much for your help, and I'm willing to answer any other questions (that I can) about my story.