Googled: female/male virginity; proving female/male virginity and associated terms Setting: Current timeline, but it isn't really that important, because information doesn't have to be modern
So I have a male character than must be proven to be a virgin. So I was wondering if there are urban legends, folklore, relics, or beliefs about being able to determine if a man is a virgin. I googled up several, but I'm trying to cover all my bases (and information was scant).
I'm also looking for ways a woman can be proven as a virgin---without involving actually examining the woman. I know there are 'trials' that a woman can go through to prove her virginity, but I'm having a difficult time finding out what these 'trials' were. I'm specifically interested on those from UK, France, Rome etc. (OK, the western world), but beliefs from anywhere is just OK.
I'm currently writing a scene set in Sarajevo, Bosnia in 1990. What I'm trying to find out is how much information would have been available to my character about the mounting political/ethnic tensions within Yugoslavia at the time. He's around 20, and pretty apathetic about the whole thing (which I believe would have been unusual), so it's not like he'll be actively seeking out information, I just want to know what was easily available to anyone.
Does anyone know how much media coverage there was relating to this in Bosnia? I understand it was probably written about a lot in newspapers, but I don't know if there would have been much television coverage, and whether or not the information available would be free media or propaganda, and whether this would have been mostly pro-seperatist or pro-unionist.
I've spoken to a Slovenian friend of mine who was around 9 at the time. Though she doesn't remember a great deal, she did say that there was a lot of intelsely passionate feeling about Slovenian independance (on both sides), and those who wanted independance were trying to get it into the media as much as possible to generate regional and international support. Does anyone know if it was the same story in Bosnia? She told me that the reason most Slovenians wanted independance was because they had a lot of resources and industry, but the 'profit' (for lack of a better word) was mostly used in areas like Bosnia that had less resources and industry of their own to rely on, as per Tito's 'Fraternity and Unity' policy. She said the Slovenians wanted to be able to use their industry to support and develop themselves, but she wasn't sure what the main reason for the seperatist movement in Bosnia was.
The information I've found online is mostly about the Slovenian and Croation declerations of independance, and the subsequent violence as a result, and while I've got enough information on how the Bosnian decleration of independance escaleted into war, I still don't really know why most ordinary Bosnians may have wanted independance in the first place. I've found that the vote for independance was over 99% in favor, possibly facilited by the Bosnian Serb assembly members asking the Serbs to boycott the vote, but it doesn't explain why so many Bosnians really felt that it was in their interest to seceed from Yugoslavia. I understand the socialist system was collapsing, and there'd been concerns from Slovenia and Croatia that Serbia had too much power in the Yugoslav system, but did ordinary Bosnians really think this constituted a need for independance, or was there more to it?
Also, if anyone has any personal experiance of what Bosnia (especially Sarajevo) was like in the leadup to the war, that would be really invaluble. I want this novel to be very much focusing on how Bosnia's complex and turbulant history has affected the people on the ground.
1. I have a character who's a few months pregnant (haven't yet fixed how many; she definitely knows she's pregnant but she's not so far along that she can't get an abortion).
- Is it realistic that the smell of vegetable soup makes her a little nauseous, though not enough to vomit? - Is milk likely to be a good or a bad thing to drink? - Is the smell of grilled fish particularly unpleasant?
Having never been pregnant, I call upon the hard-earned wisdom of those who have been. :)
2. There's a Hispanic woman who comes in to do some cooking and light cleaning as kind of a home help (this is the story about a woman whose mother has Huntington's Disease - thanks again for all those comments; I may be back with more questions...). The woman with HD is grumpy and not particularly nice, and I want her to insult the Hispanic woman in an 'all those people are lazy' kind of way. I wondered if there's a mild name or phrase that could be used here, specifically relating to her ethnicity. If necessary I can do a generic insult but I want to emphasize that it's her entire ethnic group that's being dismissed.
I realize that 'mild bigotry' is a bit odd, but I don't completely want to lose the reader's sympathy. (And I don't know exactly where 'Spic' fits on the insult scale, so if that fits, please let me know - Wikipedia wasn't helpful about that.)
Location: Poland (specific place can vary), U.S. (rural N. Californian town) Time: 1975 Have searched: combos of "Poland," "adoption," "child," "Communism," "1970s," and most interestingly (and helpful), a fascinating NYTimes article called "Booming Polish Market: Blond, Blue-Eyed Babies," which came out shortly after Communism ended in Poland
I've been searching my brains out for the last few hours, and am completely baffled as to where to go next. Thank you in advance for any help you can offer me.
What I'm trying to find out is whether or not an interracial (Taiwanese woman, Polish-American man; I don't know if the interracial part would be an issue, but I thought I'd mention it) American couple would have been able to adopt a child in Communist Poland in 1975. Assume they are well-heeled, and that they are willing to go through illegal channels to acquire said child. If the only method would be to do it illegally, how would the process go? Because the Poland scenes (if such an adoption is possible) are told retrospectively through the POV of a character who was seven when it happened, details about how such an adoption works are not necessary, but I do need to know if it was possible. Any information helps! The above NYTimes article is fairly helpful in terms of elucidating how money would exchange hands, but is not very clear as to how the child would then be brought over, or how citizenship would then be acquired for the child.
Thank you so much for your help! I really appreciate it.