How do the Japanese attend their graves? Do they leave flowers at them like Americans/Westerners?
Also, in some of the manga( probably not the best source) I've read, I've seen people splash water and leave food on the graves. Can someone explain that to me?
Also how do the Japanese dispose of their dead? I got the impression that they were creameated and then buried, but not sure if this is true everywhere in Japan.
My character lives in Hokkaido (spelling?) if that changes anything.